Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication

A 12-week *LIVE* online course

September 28 – December 21, 2021*
Tuesdays, 4:00-5:30 pm PT / 7:00-8:30 pm ET

Registration is now closed.

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About the Course

We spend our lives communicating. Every day, in every area of our lives, we are relating to others, to ourselves, and to the world. Yet how much of the time are we running on automatic? Relying on old habits and hoping for the best?

Based on Oren’s book, Say What You Mean, this 12-week online course offers training in Oren Jay Sofer’s integrated approach to communication. Oren’s approach draws directly from his training in early Buddhist Satipatthana teachings, the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication, and Dr. Peter Levine’s Somatic Experiencing. The course is designed to support you to bring the principles and practices of Say What You Mean into your daily life and relationships. With expert guidance from the author, you’ll learn ways to:

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  • Feel confident during conversations

  • Stay focused on what really matters in any interaction

  • Reduce anxiety before and during difficult conversations

  • Listen for the authentic concerns behind another’s words

  • Strengthen your capacities for resilience and empathy

Drawing upon the disciplines of mindfulness meditation, Nonviolent Communication, and somatic methods for embodiment and healing, this course offers concrete tools to transform your communication habits and improve your life’s relationships. Through a combination of mindfulness practices, guided reflections and interactive exercises, you’ll develop more confidence and presence, greater access to compassion and more versatile, clearer communication.

CEs and Professional Teacher Credits are available (see below).

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“What I’ve learned from Oren has made communication in every aspect of my life more satisfying.”
— Jan McClure, Registered Nurse
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“An exceptional class for anyone interested in building capacity to achieve win-win outcomes and a more compassionate world. Highly recommend this fun, engaging, rewarding and well structured course.”
— Crystal Johnson, IT Manager
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“I loved Oren’s 12-week online course… It has given me insights into my own communication style and many practical strategies to improve my conversations. “
— Yin Mee Cheah, Educational Consultant

About the Course

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Each Live, 90-minute session includes:

  • Teachings on a key aspect of interpersonal communication

  • Guided meditations on cognitive, emotional and somatic aspects of communication

  • Live coaching and demonstrations of tools

  • Interactive Q&A with the author and course assistants

What else You Receive:

  • Access to online Q&A and correspondence with the author

  • Weekly practice assignments and journal topics

  • Optional weekly calls with a practice buddy

  • Lifetime access to course audio recordings

  • Professional Semester Units/Credits for teachers*

  • Download course syllabus

Who's it for?

This course is appropriate for those newer to Nonviolent Communication as well as for experienced practitioners seeking to deepen their skills. Oren’s students include: psychologists, therapists, doctors, nurses and healthcare practitioners, chaplains, teachers, writers, artists, life coaches, lawyers, police, engineers, civil servants, and many more. * For information about CEs, please see here. For all other questions, please review our FAQ below.


Course Trainers

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COURSE LEADER

Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication retreats and workshops nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, a Course Trainer at Mindful Schools, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Oren also holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication and coauthor of Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Adolescents.

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ASSISTANT TRAINER

Passionate about healing – ourselves, intergenerationally, and the world – Ranjana (Ranji) Ariaratnam has shared NVC with families, teachers, activists, schools, and social service organizations via workshops, retreats, and mediation since 2009. Ranji worked for years overseas in humanitarian aid with people displaced by conflict. Now she brings together approaches that are very healing in her own life – NVC, painting and writing, somatic practices, and Vipassana meditation – each addressing different layers of our being. She lives on Vancouver Island.

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ASSISTANT TRAINER

David Johnson spent years overseas as a humanitarian aid worker. A few years after being introduced to NVC he returned to North America and immersed himself in the study of NVC as part of his exploration of practices that address the roots of violence and suffering. He has seen how NVC supports him as part of a couple and in all aspects of his life, and has shared NVC with families, schools, activists, and social service organizations via workshops, retreats, and mediation since 2011. He now lives on Vancouver Island.


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“Oren’s online course was one of the best learning experiences in my 30+ year career!”
— Stace Williams, Leadership Development Consultant
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“Oren is a master facilitator. His class will teach you how to manage conflict, embody empathy, and connect with what really matters in every situation.”
— Joshua Berkowitz, Mindful Instructor
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“Oren’s course was a complete game changer for me, and I can’t stop recommending it to everyone who will listen... It’s improved my work, my son and I have a healthier relationship ,and my marriage is stronger and so full of love.”
— Rosanna Stephens, Knowledge Manager, Technology Corporations

Logistics & Registration

Thank you for your interest
Registration for this course is now closed.

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“The combination of mindfulness and communication skills in Oren’s course dramatically shifted how I engage in conversation. What I’ve learned ... has had an enormous impact on my life in both my personal and professional relationships.”
— Dr. Patricia L. Huertas, MD.
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“Oren creates a warm spirit of community through his from-the-heart lectures, interactive Q&A, role playing, the online forum and his encouragement to practice regularly. I will definitely be signing up for his next class!”
— Jackie Berner, Meditation Instructor

How do the buddy and group rates work?

Discounts are available if you take the course with one or more people. Receive $25 off when you register with a friend by selecting the “Buddy rate” above. Receive $50 off when you register with a group of 4 or more by selecting the Group rate above. You do not need to register together — that is, each person in your group / buddy can register separately using the discounted rate. We offer this on a honor system. If you choose to register for more than one person, please email us with the names and email addresses of each additional person taking the course.


Do you offer scholarships?

Yes. We’re committed to making these tools and training available to everyone regardless of their ability to pay. If the requested rates are beyond your means at present, click here to obtain a scholarship.


How do I get CEs or Professional Teacher Credits?

This course offers 15.0 CE hours. For complete details, please review the information on our Continuing Education page. If you would like CEs you must apply prior to the beginning of the course. Please complete the form on our CE page.


Do I need Oren’s book “Say What You Mean” for this course? Does the course come with the book?

Yes, you do need the book for this course because each week of the course has recommended reading from Oren’s book. However, the book is not provided with the course as we do not have the means or infrastructure to purchase, fulfill, and ship orders of Oren’s book. Please purchase it Oren’s book here or check it out from your local library.


Is this course be different from Oren’s other online communication courses?

Yes. This 12-week course provides in depth training in all aspects of Mindful Communication. Based on Oren’s book, the course includes detailed teaching and exercises in presence, relational awareness, listening, empathy, as well as key aspects of self-expression and navigating difficult conversations. If you have taken the Wise Speech course, that is an introduction and includes a focus on Buddhist theory and practice. If you have taken the “Authentic Communication” course, that focuses only on self-expression.


Will the sessions be recorded? I have to miss a few of the sessions.

Yes. All of the live sessions will be recorded and available for viewing after each session (usually the next day).


How long will I have access to the recordings?

All of Oren’s online courses come with indefinite access to all audio and video recordings, handouts, and guided meditations.


My internet is slow. Can I call in by phone?

Yes - you can join the live calls on your laptop, mobile device, or by dialing in by phone. For laptop and mobile you will need to download the Zoom app (instructions will be provided. For phone, you must be able to place a call to regular number (it is not a toll-free call).


Does the course include anything else other than the 90 minute weekly sessions?

Yes. In addition to the live 90-minute sessions, each week includes: a written reflection from Oren; suggestions for practice; optional interactive exercises with a buddy; optional online correspondence in the course forums.


How much time will it take me to participate in the course each week?

That’s up to you. The minimum amount of time suggested is 90 minutes for the weekly sessions. We recommend spending 1-2 additional hours each week reading Say What You Mean, and doing the practices. Some participants may choose to spend more or less time depending on their schedule. For those with interest and time, the course provides materials for up to 3-4 hours of additional practice and study each week.


I understand this is a live course – what will the class size be?

We don’t know how many people will register. Past years have ranged from 250 - 400. Based on Oren’s previous courses, and the combination of live Q&A plus written correspondence between sessions, we’re confident that you will have ample opportunities for support, coaching and practice.


My schedule changed and I’m no longer available on these evenings. Can I get a refund?

Only if you cancel before the course begins; there are no refunds after the course begins. Since all sessions are recorded and available for viewing afterwards, we encourage you to stay in the course and view (or listen) to the sessions on your own schedule. If you would still like to cancel, you may do so as long as we receive your request before the course begins, less a $35 administrative fee.


How can I obtain a Certificate of Completion?

You can receive a Certificate of Completion by requesting one through the CE page here. To obtain your certificate, you must attend all classes live (or listen to the recordings) and complete all reading and practice assignments within one month of the course closing date. See our Continuing Education page for details.

Additional Testimonials

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“The skills I developed studying with Oren have been extremely valuable in both my professional and personal interactions ... I can’t recommend his highly beneficial trainings enough.”
— Dr. Michael Aanavi, PhD, LAc.
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“Oren Jay Sofer is a generous, insightful, and skilled individual who embodies what he teaches. This made learning fun, relevant, and satisfying. I increased my sensitivity for listening, and discovered a capacity for more empathy and ease with myself and others. Human communication is complex and this course demystified some of that complexity for me, helping me relax around the challenge of releasing old habits and embracing new ones. “
— Amy Ward Brimmer, Yardley, Wellness Educator and Somatics Practitioner
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“This class was amazing! Rich with real life examples and role play, the live group calls were extremely helpful in illustrating how to incorporate the skills and teachings into daily life. I feel so grateful for this training.”
— Tanya Hawkins, Mindfulness Practitioner
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“Oren’s teachings and guided practices have strengthened my ability to care for myself and others when communication becomes a challenge. I am more present and intentional in my relationship with myself and others, which widens my perspective and enriches my experience.”
— Maya Schofield, Elementary Public School Teacher
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“In his book and course, Oren’s teaching style is vibrant, relevant and so supportive as we try and find our way in this complicated, challenging world.”
— Lauri Flick-Harty, M.A., L.P.C., Psychotherapist
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“This online course is exceptional! It provides invaluable information for creating better communication skills… evokes profound insight, and the cultivation of a wise heart to our relationships.”
— Marsha J. Gehl, DC; Sonora, CA